Not sure where this will go....

[py]

Not sure if i need advice or just a place to vent....so here goes....

I was in a relationship(10 year marraige) for 15 years with someone whom i never really felt loved me or stopped loving me at some point way before the 10th year. I never felt my love was recipricated (in the beginning) and i think i lost interest(cheated horribly) as time went on, but we had a child and a house etc so i just stayed(no where to go) I was used to being a mom..a wife...so things fall apart, i met a wonderful new man...who recipricates what i give in love....but you know in wanting to make this a great relationship, i have a couple of b****s that i am not sure what to do....well there is nothing to do but get over it...any how...in the last 2 years we have been together, he has had limited time with his children...now the time is lifted and he can spend more time with them....BUT ALL DAY!! all day when you say you DONT want to stay all day? from 1-9 leaving me alone on a day that was supposed to be one of our weekend day.
i know its his children...i guess i just feel so lonely. I dont have 'freinds' here to hang out with, and thats ok, but while i am home all the ttime it doesnt feel like he is....i get so mad i think "fine , i will work all weekend and you will never see me", but that is the old me...to want to strike back with that, maybe this was just a vent...he is so set in his ways, and i guess i am in mine old habits are hard to change...i know he hates that i always want to know 'whats for dinner' tonight at 7 am so i know what to plan, leave my clothes everywhere...ask what he is gonna do all the time...is it time for me? to just think of me? is it wrong to finally put myself forward and do what I want???

anywho had to let that out....i want this to work. i dont want our lives to be like they used to be each with our former partners of long years, maybe in wanting that i have to handle what comes from it

thanks alot
and sorry for taking so much space
and also wanted to say, sorry i havent been in, in a long time

[watershield]

Nothing wrong with venting, it's healthy.

Have you tried joining him and his kids, doing what they are doing and making it a family outing?

[py]

His children and i have nevermet, we thought it would be best because his exwife is so volitile and you never know what she will do if she finds out that he is with me....its ok, had a chance to sleep on it. I realize i am jealous of his time....but i know that his time with them is crucial and important, just sometimes.......you know...thank you for answering me....

py

[Ebony]

py said:

His children and i have nevermet, we thought it would be best because his exwife is so volitile and you never know what she will do if she finds out that he is with me....its ok, had a chance to sleep on it. I realize i am jealous of his time....but i know that his time with them is crucial and important, just sometimes.......you know...thank you for answering me....

py

Excuse me but I would be rather leary of his excuse being his ex. If they are separated/divorced, she shouldn't have any say in what he does with his life. If he wants a lady to spend time with, that should be ok, rather, none of her business. I would, I guess the word is insist, on meeting his kids and doing things as a family. It is ok for kids from divorced parents to have 2 families to spend time with.

that's just my opinion, for what its worth.