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Post by dreaming on Apr 11, 2006 0:26:37 GMT
Me and my best bud have been close for years. We've had rough patches, but we stick through it. But this time I feel mad at her, and it's not because of a fight. It's because of a boy! See we both really like the same boy. I mean, it's 8th grade crush, but still. I've liked him so much since 5th grade, and everytime I think it had passed, it comes back, stronger. But now I found out my best friend and i like the same guy! Problem: we found out, in weird ways today, that if one of us somehow started to go out with him, the other one would kill (not seriously, but we;d be mad) the other one! A boy I'v practically loved and dream about is tearing apart our friendship! As sefish as it sounds, I guiltily hope he likes me, not her. I truly think it's a crush close to love. Seeing his eyes makes me melt; I have dreamed about him' I wish we were together! But, being the outcast, hated, fat girl I am, and him being athletic and popular...it'll never be. Sadly, I'm sort of glad my friend is the same. Oh, what should i do? I don't want my friendship to end over a guy, but I selfishly think I deserve him! I mean, as bad of an argument this is, I have liked him what i think to be longer and stronger than she, and she has other crushes. I have 2 others, but not anywhere near this. i really need help. Please!
~Dreaming
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Post by Verminda Spirit on Apr 11, 2006 8:50:10 GMT
Never ever fall out with your friends over a boy, your friend is your friend and they are so hard to come by, good friends that is....Men, they will come and go.....
Have you spoken to each other about this boy, because you should, be open and honest with each other and see where it leads, you may find that your friend does not like him as much as you and will leave it at that.....
If it would upset your friend to see you with him, then you need to think about your friends feelings and she yours...Because bitterness and jealousy will destroy what you have between each other....Is this boy really worth it?, no hes not and believe me, there are other boys out there that you will eventually meet....
Hun, don't put yourself down, look at yourself as beautiful, because you are, there are plenty of people out there ready to do this to you, don't do it to yourself, if you cant like what you see in the mirror how will you expect someone else to like it?....
Why do you think that you deserve him, why is it not the other way around?...
Listen, forget about this boy and go and have fun with your friend, shes your friend, hes just another boy and if its meant to be, then it will be, just don't lose your friend over a crush.....
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Post by Dreaming on Apr 11, 2006 11:24:05 GMT
Thanks. I realize that he's really not worth, now. She was my friend before I liked him. Thanks, again.
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Post by watershield on Apr 11, 2006 20:39:17 GMT
Just to add a brief note... You were fighting over something you "wanted" rather than "had" and may never have for that matter. Sounds like both of you didn't consider his wants and desires.
If we are talking about a 16 - 18 year old boy, he's most likly not thinking about one girl but more like a dozen or so. If you did land him, you'd likely throw him back in short order any how.
Crushes come and go as fast as night becomes day. But friends are hard to find and a true friend can be there for life.
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Post by dreaming on Apr 11, 2006 20:45:04 GMT
Thanks, watershield.
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Post by Ebony on Apr 13, 2006 0:01:42 GMT
I totally agree with V and WS on this. You need to keep your friends close. Through life, many people will come and go, but if you have a friend for life, you will never be lonely.
Think of your crushes - even though you don't like the other 2 as well as this one, this boy probably has a bunch of girls he likes. He may not even be thinking of girls especially since he is in to sports.
Most boys in this age group ask a different girl out every week. If you would happen to be asked out by him, you would probably find he is shallow, talks about himself and his conquests nonstop, and be bored to death with him.
You will have ruined a friendship that may have been life long for one or two dates with a dork.
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