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Oct 8, 2006 1:09:00 GMT
Post by mnemonic on Oct 8, 2006 1:09:00 GMT
I have trust issues in close relationsships. It creates problems for me at times. Or could it be that there isn't any wrong with me at all?
You see, I am dating someone and have done that for quite some time. We aren't really progressing, and some subjects are absolutly impossible to discuss with her. I wonder if there are things that this woman hides from me, but is really something I should know for my own sake. I am so afraid to get my life ruined by someone who play games with me.
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Oct 8, 2006 16:22:23 GMT
Post by watershield on Oct 8, 2006 16:22:23 GMT
These are difficult subject to give advise on as really there is no way we can understand all of the aspects of the relationship. You almost need to see the people together.
Most problems however do come from communication issues. You may feel that she does not talk about whats on her mind, but she would likely say the same about you. You need to first understand what it is you both want from this relationship. Then if your not getting that what ever that is, two questions. 1) Is it going to be possible to get that aspect 2) Whats keeping us together now.
Some times the answer to question 2 is more real than 1 and the reason for being together changes.
In any event, these are questions that you need to ask each other and tr to discuss together. You may find that if your relationship is superficial, you may part company. Or, it could open the door to a deeper and more meaningful commitment from you both.
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May 12, 2007 13:17:42 GMT
Post by aprildawn on May 12, 2007 13:17:42 GMT
I think that everyone of us has our little secrets and mysteries about ourselves but the question is how much does she keep from you. Maybe you are normal or maybe you are carrying something from a past relationship on to this one; and that is not fair to her. If you really do have some reason not to trust then you need to be cautious and let her know that you think something is not right. The only thing you can really do is ask her to be honest and let you know if there is anything that she is keeping from you.
IF you don't have a reason not to trust her and you are just going on your past experiences than that isn't fair to her. Give her a chance to prove that she can be trusted and if she can't it won't be long till you find out. You are absolutely right, you do not want to be with someone who plays games and isn't trustworthy. If she is being honest and you cannot help but being suspicious of her. Then you may end up becoming unfair and abusive. NOt physically but emotionally; constantly letting someone know that you don't trust them is a very hurtful thing if you have no reason to not be trusted.
A little bit of mystery in a relationship is good. If it is something you can't handle then maybe you are not ready to deal with this relationship and you need to spend time healing old wounds. I don't know what your situation is but I know that you must have trust in a relationship!
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