friend or foe?

[aprildawn]

a girl that is my so called friend came to my house and totaly acted like she didn't want to be there and she felt sorry for me or something. She used to be a really good friend but now she has grown close with another girl who has always been a complete snob to me she says stuff like "your zipper is down if you care" why wouldn't I care am i just so disgusting now that I let my self go and don't even care about my appearance anymore. Any way these girl were at my house and I wasn't the only one to notice that they were acting wierd to me. It was like back in high school and two snobby girls just got done talking about me and then had to leave so they could talk about me some more. Then they invited me to a party the next day and told me to call when I was comming. The next day I forgot about the party until late so I didn't call or bother to call I mean they don't act like they want to see me anyway. So after the weekend I was checking my Myspace page and there is a message from this girl that said "thanks for the call" so I let her know how her and the other girl made me feel and told them I don't need that in my life. So she said it was all taken the wrong way and I shouldn't be mad. So Invited the girl back to my house to talk without the other one present. We started talking like old times and everything was cool. Then she mentions that the bio father of my son was at this party. This guy was very mean to her for being friends with me and used to say nasty things about her every chance he had. I actually think that his and my brake up was sometimes more about them than me. Any way... she told me that she talked to him and drank with him that night. She said they weren't friends again or anything like that but she is not sure what she said to him cause she blacked out from drinking so much. She knows that I want him to know nothing about his son, not even the fact that he is a boy or his name or anything cause if he wants to know he should have bothered to find out a long time ago. I am just wondering what exactly she said to him and maybe she said something she shouldn't have as a cover cause she said something. I think she is willing to look past the fact that he was so mean to her cause she needs everyone to like her. I dont' understand why he was not mean to her this time; perhaps because he was on her turf and there would have been trouble if he did. I don't know wether this girl is my true friend she has stuck by me through alot and all but the way she acts sometimes I think that she just needs me to say we are friends. SHe has always held stuff over my head so that I have to ask if she is mad at me all the time and when I do ask it is always " Well I am not mad but there is this one thing" It seems like she wants me to beg to be her friend and I don't need friends that bad and I don't need friends like that.

I have told her all of this and she says it is not like that but if I feel this way and other people recognize it then it can't be all in my head. Right?

I hate feeling like everything is a competition or something. She also has lost her sense of humor since she has been hanging out with this other girl who has no personality and mentions her boobs every 5 seconds because apparently it the only thing she thinks she has to offer.

[watershield]

Not sure that I can give anything of value here but....
This is very much like the power of positive thinking.

From reading this, you sound very negative. Your attrating a lot of negativity from situation and people.
You've got to stop worrying about what these people think, as really, they don't mean anything to you unless you want them to.

Cut them loose and move on. Should you meet, be polite, but don't let your self get sucked into their mud puddle.