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Post by silenced on Mar 10, 2006 19:15:00 GMT
I'm so depressed. Someone who is a complete bitch and an outrageous liar, people are believing over me no matter how outrageous the lies- Saying my partner met me cos he used to work in mental health and cherry-pick vulnerable female clients (he's never worked in mental health.) Saying my friend and I who pressed rape charges against her partner met in a psychiatric ward (we've never been in hospital together, we met at college when we were both 17 and doing our A-levels.) What can I do? It's so horrible not to be believed.   Love Silenced |
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Post by watershield on Mar 10, 2006 20:22:10 GMT
Any time we hear of a story some one is telling about us, it tends to send us into a tail spin. And that is exactly why they do it. They enjoy the reaction we have to the lie.
Because we react we give them power over us. We get depressed because we are losing energy to them.
If it is a lie, anyone who knows you will know it's a lie and not give it any value. And if told to someone that does not know you, who cares?
Anyone who knows the lier, will or should know she is a lier at the best of times and again not give it any value.
If you want to take control of this, the next time you see her, just smile like you know a secret, maybe every so slightly shack your head, don't talk to her, just walk away. That will drive most people nuts.
The other aspect here is that you need to see where she is coming from.
I read that you filed a rape charge against her partner. Can you imagine how devastating it must be for her to realize her partner finds you more stimulating than her.
I'm not suggesting forgiveness here, I'm only pointing at a source of her angry.
As to your question "How can I stop this", you can't.
You can not control other people. All you can do is decide weather or not you are going to buy into their pain.
Ignore her and eventually she will loss interest and go away.
If anyone asks you about , give them the true nature of the events and let them decide how to react
The season is upon us and now is an opportunity to gain renewed strength. Find a quiet spot where you can connect with nature and draw in the energy that you need.
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Post by Verminda Spirit on Mar 10, 2006 21:05:58 GMT
After reading WS post i don't think there is anything else i would add to that, perfect advice ;D....He's right, ignore them, you know the truth and that is all that matters.......I know its hard but in time they will move on to some other poor soul and forget you....
You need to shake their insecurities from you, like WS has already mentioned connect with nature and release yourself from their grip....If it helps surround yourself in a protective sphere of white light, whenever you are around them....Do not let them have the satisfaction that they have got to you, for they will take more of your energy and use it against you.....Surround yourself with your loved ones, when you feel a little down because of their remarks, phone one of your friends or family up, place that protective shield around you or go for a quiet walk some where and clear your head.......
Smile and hold your head high, you have done nothing wrong...
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Post by Ebony on Mar 10, 2006 23:49:15 GMT
This is so very true. When we feel vulnerable it is so easy to let someone else control our energy by taking it from us.
Many times in our lives, we are dropped, crumpled, and ground into the dirt by people that want to hurt us. If we give them control of our emotions we can make ourselves feel as though we are worthless.
What you need to do is remember that you are a valuable person, and regardless what this other person says, don't give up your self-worth to her.
There are people who love you and do value you as a person. Our worth comes from what we believe about ourselves, not by what others tell us we are.
From personal experience I know this is not easy if your self-esteem is low to start with. You have a unique and special place in the Universe - don't ever forget that.
Love & Light
E
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Post by seleena on Mar 16, 2006 18:36:28 GMT
All I can say sweetie, is ditto. They have all given you wonderful advice. Why let those who feed off others be a parasite to your security? Love yourself and let them find someone else to feed off of. Hopefully they will eventually learn to face thier own securities without pulling another person down to pull themselves up.
Take care.
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